|
Dating Research Home A Spy in the Women's Camp Cosmo Tells Women What to do to Get a Man that's Off Limits Author: Miller, Nancy Cosmopolitan They are talking about us every month, and believe me, the women are paying attention. But going through the checkout line with a Cosmo in your basket or standing in the magazine section reading Mademoiselle is very un-cool. But I read the women's mags, looking for that chink in the armor that I can exploit. Women like to break the rules as much as we do, they just do it in a different way. For every guy that lusts after his girlfriend's best buddy, there is a woman getting hot and bothered over a guy in the office. Forbidden romances can be exciting! Here are some tips for making it work, at least for a while. When You are a Former Boyfriend of Her Friend You always thought that she was hot, and now that you are no longer seeing her friend, why not take a shot at dating her? You might have a chance if you use your big head. First, wait a decent amount of time before asking her out. We are talking 3 months, not 24 hours. Secondly, you have a much better shot if you and her friend parted on good terms, or at least avoided police involvement. She WILL ask her friend about you and basically ask for permission to see you. Only you know if this will be good or bad news. Third, if the two of you do get together, go easy on the friend when you see her. Be a bud and keep your tongue out of her mouth and your hands off her naughty bits. When You Are the Long Distance Romance Her friends will tell her to forget you, it's not worth the trouble. But you can make it work. First, treat her as thought you two were not a thousand miles apart. Stay in constant touch. But you may want to use email and avoid expensive phone calls. Save your money for step two. Secondly, visit often! As often as possible, really, I mean it. Save money wherever you can, hope and a plane, then hop on her. It's really the only way to keep the fires burning. When You Are the Guy at Work You two already know each other, you have friends in common, so you are off to a good start. First, try to date only equals. Stay away from bosses and the receptionist if she works in the same group. Second, avoid flirting at the office, and REALLY avoid using company email for hot notes. People notice flirting, and the chances are very good that someone could be reading your mail. Third, don't come and go together. Hey, not that, you know what I'm talking about. Don't ride to work together, don't leave at the same time, don't go to lunch. You know how boring it is at the office, why give people something to talk about. You Are Recently Divorced You don't have to be damaged good, if you are divorced for less that two years. Emphasize that you are not afraid of commitment. Open up and talk about your problems, they love that. But take things slowly, or she will think that she is just a rebound fling, not the real thing.
So get out there and break the rules, but use your head. In many ways, these relationships can be safer since you already know a good bit about her. But since you also might have friends in common, remember that if you break up, she will tell them all about you. Be careful what you tell her (grin).
|